The right of first refusal can create a police state mentality. Clocking the comings and goings of an ex is anathema to healing.  It is a great way to remain angry, stuck, and convinced of moral “right-ness,” which might feel good in the moment but brings eventual misery.  Heard the expression would you rather be…

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The concept sounds perfectly rational—good, in fact—in theory.  If both parties in a divorce settlement understand the agreement and potential results therein, a “Right of First Refusal” within a decree can be a positive.  First, what exactly is the “Right of First Refusal”?  Simply put, if a parent in possession of the child(ren) will be…

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